I can’t make past wrongs disappear, but I can take actions that will help me to let them go. When I make amends, I do what I can to correct the situation. Then I an put the past in its rightful place and leave it there.

An emotionally mature person makes reasonable plans and tries to carry them out in orderly fashion: does not do things on the spur of the moment without due consideration.

I go to Al-Anon to get rid of self-pity and resentment, not to increase their power to destroy me.  I go to learn how others have dealt with their problems, so I can apply this wisdom to my own life.

I have learned to accept reality and to adapt myself to it, to get rid of resentments, to live alone, and to enjoy everything I have, which I think is enough, because I have my life. I am fulfilled.  I am the owner of my time, my space, and myself.

I will not chain myself to the past with self-defeating guilt, or by inflating the importance of my errors.  Instead, I want to face my past and heal old wounds so that I may move forward into a richer, fuller, and more joyous life today.

When I trust others to complete the tasks they willingly take on, I witness more unity, love, and serenity in myself, as well as in those around me.

Because I was affected by alcoholism in my family, my thoughts and feelings became distorted.  I thought I knew what was best for others, but in Al-Anon I learned that many of my attempts to control others actually contributed to the problems I was trying to fix.

We are imprisoned by our own inability or unwillingness to reach out for help to a power greater than ourselves.  I will set myself free from the prison of self-will and pride which I myself have built.  I will accept freedom.

Guidance can take many forms, and it often comes when least expected.  Words of wisdom may fall from the mouth of a small child or from the ramblings of someone we dislike.  We never know where we will find inspiration or help.

Today I pray for the wisdom to build a better tomorrow on the mistakes and experiences of yesterday.

My own way of thinking often deceives me.  I can see but a little way.  When I realize that people are learning to solve their problems in over 30,000 Al-Anon groups all over the world, wouldn’t I be punishing myself needlessly to reject this wonderful way of life?

As Al-Anon members, we have found it fundamental that we not give advice about what course of action any other person should take, even if the advice is sought.

When I speak up for myself, I am participating more fully in my life.

After the meeting, I asked him how I could find this God.  He answered, “Say ‘Good morning, God,’ every  morning even if you don’t believe it.”

I do not have to accept the continuous misery that goes with alcoholism.  I will not surrender to the vagaries and machinations of the alcoholic.  No one can distort my thinking unless I permit it.

Regardless of what they choose to do about it, by minding our own business and getting out of the way, we allow others to be themselves.  Meanwhile, we free ourselves from all  kinds of burdens that were never ours to carry.  Thus, we too have the opportunity to face ourselves.